NIAW: Stop Comparing!

Who have you compared yourself to today?

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Comparing can be one of the hardest parts of the infertility struggle. Wouldn't you agree?

We compare ourselves to others our own age (or younger!) who have not struggled to conceive. We start thinking we're behind, or that their life must be so much better than our own. 

We compare ourselves to other couples who are trying to conceive.  We get discouraged when the same treatments that didn't work for us are working for them, or when their journey is progressing and we're on a break. We compare our bad days to others' good days. 

We compare our body to our spouse's. We struggle with insecurities when our body is the one that is failing to cooperate, or just straight up causing the fertility issues altogether.

Comparison can be a major and ugly part of this journey. We have to STOP!

No one's life is going to be or meant to be the same as someone else. I know I've quoted this a million times, but I'll say it again, "Comparison is the thief of joy!" The minute we start comparing ourselves to fertile families, other TTC couples, or even our own spouse we begin to diminish our own self worth and we steal our own joy. 

Pray to love yourself. Pray to love your journey. Pray for strength to see the blessings in the struggle. Pray to stop comparing

This is still a good life.

XO